Friday, August 20, 2004

sayonala

im sitting here, in front of my computer, waiting for my dear friend (brother would be a more accurate description) to call me for our last meeting for a few months.

i knew nala since sec1, we were classmates and neighbours. we used to play alot together, be it soccer, dumb card games, role playing games, everything. go out and stuff. but that was it. for like 4 long years. so sad for a friendship to be this way. especially when we really spent alot of time together. its not like im a intellectual snob or something, but when i have friendships it should develop to something more, some sort of kinship. but we were just playing soccer and eating n chatting everyday.

and this sort of continued into jc, all the way thru j2 and even this year. our friendship was based on small talk and common interests. for me that was. and there were alot of niggling problems in this friendship that i couldnt stand and got pissed off at him countless times. so on e day before i enlisted, i wrote a letter to him explaining my view of our friendship, and asked my brother to pass it to him after i went in. that way we would have a natural cooling off period for him to think about it, and then we would see how our friendship would go.

and it could not have gone better. like johnny fontane, upon being reprimanded by don corleone, replied by laughing, he replied in a very positive way taht saved our friendship. and i am ever thankful for that.

today, we share alot of things. i ask him for opinions on alot of things, and he gives very good opinions, not just because he is wise, has good taste and is creative, but because he is one of those people who can understand me completely. he doesnt doubt anything i do because he knows what i am thinking and why i do it. somethings he wouldnt do it, but he knows my rationale for alot of things, and i trust him when he says yes or no. his yes or no is so important because it will be 99.9% the same answer i will give myself with the aid of hindsight. how difficult it is to have such a friend like that.

and he has loyalty. i mean yeah loyalty, u look at it like a vulgarity. no space for loyalty in today's world eh? well that makes him even better. cos nala has made space for loyalty in a world like this. he has changed alot, and now he is a person with loyalty to all his friends. he will not let you down when you need help or encouragement. i love him because he believes in me. its not that im insecure but how good is it to have a person to believe in you, and tell you "i know you can do it". its so encouraging in a discouraging world like this. he has stuck by me through thick and thin of our friendship and thick and thin of our lives. we went thru all the bad times in our relationship and that has strengthened this friendship. he also trusts me with his problems and knows that i will deliver when promised. and i love to help him because of that.

and he is totally truthful. he tells you what he feels, and what he thinks and stuff. and how nice is it to have people that are real in this fabricated world.

and he has made it big. he studies are fine, his not bad in other things in sch like sports n stuff. he excels in the army such that he's a safos, and is very determined and daring to take on the vocation commando. oh his babe is quite hot too. haha i dont know but alot of ppl say so.

he has success and potential and a bright future. and he has alot of luck. but he also has humility, optimism, and desire. and he is cool and funky and funny. and he is a good friend that i will help when called upon. because his friendship is something i treasure and he is someone i can and will need to depend on.

so adios my good friend. tonight is our last night out in a while. farewells are teary affairs, but tonight it will be a night of merry making. and we will meet again soon, and all of us will be together again. and i look forward to that day.